Updated: Mar 7
Introspection for finding the path that truly brings you joy.
Do you crave change? Change of pace; change of scenery; change of lifestyle; change of same damn four walls?
When we’re growing up, all we want is change — to see new things, experience people and the world and live in fun apartments. As we get older, we sometimes come to realize that the things we long for and desire — our dreams — are not within our grasp. That’s okay. Why is it okay to let go of unrealistic expectations of our lives? Because as we grow, we also come to appreciate the things that we do have. We learn to follow a path of encouragement and happiness and live our passions. We learn that these things are more important than society’s ideas of success — right? Is success important?
Is how we measure it even more important?
Here we are, at the backend of a global pandemic. Your office job is a thing of the past. You can realize what’s truly important to you, and just like that, your life and career are changed forever — or at least your perspective of them is. You can begin to bet on yourself because let’s face it, you’re the most reliable thing to yourself these days. As we all are.
We can let go of the expectations of the five-bedroom house or the six-figure job because we find happiness in the joys of stability. We come to let go of craving change and focus on the passionate, messy values of life rather than the drama of uncertainty. Moments of joy and happiness.
From these days we can learn that we’re not working towards a life we want — we’re already living it.
There are things far more important than the title on your business cards. During your journey, your course may change many times but your dream — if it’s pure and true — doesn’t have to.
As perspectives on careers change this year, we have to ask ourselves how these changes are affecting us. Can you confidently say that you are ready to move on to something new? What does that involve? Are you finding yourself starting back at square one — or like many of us, building something new for yourself?
In our society, the relevance and position of a person’s career are so high on the rung of self-identifying traits. We have to ask ourselves why this is. “What do you do?” doesn’t need to be the most important question to learn about someone — especially now that we know that life paths can change as quickly as we can change apartments.
Instead of “What do you do?” can we start to ask “What do you enjoy doing?”
If you want to do more work on introspection and contemplating the strange year that has passed, Still Life, a new book available on Amazon, offers writing prompts and space for your thoughts.